(April 20 to May 20)
Happy birthday, Taurus! I love Taureans: the magnificent kissing capabilities, the insane amount of time it takes you to leave the house (if at all). This month, I have a little advice, and my advice is this: please do one really nice thing for a total stranger every day. Don't tell anyone about it, just do it for the person and for you. I periodically do these monthly challenges myself, and it's good for the self-esteem to do an estimable act every day. So while I can't kiss you through the internet, this is my birthday gift to you — but it's a good one.
(May 21 to June 20)
There are some people with whom we always end up in the same place emotionally no matter how much we swear it will be different this time. If you have to stay in touch with a person like this for work purposes, set boundaries where the contact is strictly as professional as it can be. But if you're making the choice to willingly be with this person, you should know that nothing changes if nothing changes.
(June 21 to July 22)
The gift of desperation is one of my favorites and the place from which the most magical things in my life have happened. If you feel like you're bottoming out on something, maybe stop digging. Then look to something else you've never tried before.
(July 23 to August 22)
We are told that even celebrities and the very rich aren't necessarily happy. We're told that the acquisition of belongings and achievement can feel empty on the other side. Yet it's hard to believe this, because the actions of acquiring and achieving serve at least to distract us from having to be with ourselves. We want them to work, even if they don't. But this month, if ever the idea that happiness is an inside job arises, allow yourself to believe it … and follow it.
(August 23 to September 22)
What if all is already well? I know that's a scary thought, because to do and fix and constantly improve means there is a definitive purpose to being alive — even if that purpose is fleeting. But there might be more to being alive than purpose, and it's called being. As a Virgo, I don't particularly like "just being" any more than you do. But we can get more accustomed to the state by repeating to ourselves "All is already well."
(September 23 to October 22)
All I have to say to you this month is the grass really is always greener. That's the human condition, and it's just the way things are, for whatever reason. We are going to want what others have because it looks so much more polished on the outside than the way we feel on the inside. But if you can remember that what you are thinking is a condition of reality, and not reality itself, then maybe you might torture yourself a little less.
(October 23 to November 21)
What's the oldest tape you play in your head? You will know it's a tape if it's something you hear constantly about what you are doing wrong, the ways in which you will not succeed, and how you are unfit for one thing or another. Other cute tapes include the way things should or shouldn't be done in the world and "right" ways to live. I'm not telling you to eject the tape. But listen closely so you at least know what it is.