(October 23 to November 21)
Whatever you are trying to stop doing will not work until you cease being a dick to yourself. Like, you can still be a dick to yourself in other areas. Far be it from me to preach totalitarian self-love. But when you try to remove something from your life, a person, object, or action that no longer serves you (though it once seemed to serve and protect you very well), be nice to yourself. Why would you give it up if all that's left is you and some asshole in your mind?
(November 22 to December 21)
OK, so if I tell you to be still with yourself again this month, will you kill me? I'm doing it, because you need it again. Your outward odysseys and surface comings and goings are cool and make for good stories and experiential learning. But the inward odyssey, even the feelings you'd rather not feel, is the bigger trip. Try to take a few minutes each day to do absolutely nothing. If you can't do it once a day, then just do it once, right now: ten minutes, eyes closed, focus on the place between your brows and breathe.
(December 22 to January 19)
Somewhere along the way, we decide that some of our needs are OK and some of them aren't. It's strange that what we choose to define as OK usually bears little connection to reality. Most likely, it stems from our parents' early expectations. When in doubt, blame your parents. For me, the need for approval and the need to be perfect feel OK. The need to just be human and the need to be vulnerable? Not OK. Which needs of yours are you shunting away to the outer layer of your psyche because you fear they are unacceptable, unattractive, or too much for this world? Maybe dig one out and let it live.
(January 20 to February 18)
Stop listening to what you think you know. Knowing things is boring. Spend this month knowing nothing. Knowing nothing is exciting, like a small flame softening the wax of who you think you are. The wax is getting dusty and gross. It's a moldy cinnamon-spice candle in a jar at someone's aunt's house. You really don't have to know anything. Be smoke.
(February 19 to March 20)
OK, here are a few ideas I like. Do with them what you will:
1. Fear is nothing but imagination, unless it's tethered to something that is truly, actually occurring in the present moment.2. All our attributes as human beings (including imagination) can be used to make our lives more beautiful or more miserable.3. Life is scary when you think a scary thought.4. It's hard to direct our first thought, but it's much easier to direct the thought that follows.
(March 21 to April 19)
If you haven't already figured out that time changes everything, come join the party. For example, some of the people I thought were just OK ten years ago were actually, looking back, deeply fuckable. And some of the people I thought were deeply fuckable were merely a projection of who I wanted them to be. Same goes for what you imagine you want out of life.
(April 20 to May 20)
You don't have to know what anything is. Nobody knows what life is, and we are all still here. If you are having an experience that feels powerful but you are unable to define it, don't sweat it. Oftentimes, the more you define something, the less you can feel it, and the more you feel it, the less you can define it. Leave words alone this month. They will still be there next month.